I am reading "The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships" by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.  This is a wonderfully insightful book written in plain, easy to understand language.  It addresses anger...something we all feel but don't always use in a constructive way. 

Women have been indoctrinated since birth to hold in anger.  It isn't feminine or lady-like to show it.  Those who do are labeled bitches, hags, shrews or worse.  Men are uncomfortable with angry women...many will even say we are irrational or unbalanced.   It's ok for them to get angry, but us...not so much.  The thing is, we all feel anger in our relationships, but we don't always understand what's behind it...or how to use it correctly to address a problem before it becomes a crisis.  This book shows you how.

I was absolutely amazed to see myself in the stories and advice offered here....wow.  My relationships have suffered significantly from "the dance"....well....I have chosen to stop dancing to this tune....maybe I'll try salsa instead...:)

BTW....this book is great for men too...:)